Mommies In The Making


I have never made New Years resolutions because over the course of my life I have found them to be rather arbitrary and feel like major life changes should occur organically. I strongly believe that no one changes anything until they are ready, regardless of how much they are hounded by others. In December, I started getting uber fed up with my weight and decided to make a change. Since this readiness to change has transpired right around the new year, it looks like I sort of have a New Years resolution.

Over the past five years I have slowly, but surely gained weight each year. Oddly, this happened to my mother when she turned 25 as well. So Violet and I have decided to resolve our issue with weight and join the popular W.eight Wat.chers program and a gym close to our work. Sadly, I was already a member, but never went. It does feel really good to have a focus and plan to losing some of this weight that has crept up on us both. So we both have a long way to go, but we are committed to making this work. Since this will be our year to have a baby (positive thoughts), I really want to make sure that I am only exhausted from the baby and not from being overweight!

Weight lose is not the only change going on around here either. I got accepted into grad school and will be starting next week. Since I am trying to pay for half of this degree out of pocket, I am only taking one class this semester until I can apply for some student loans after I file taxes. I am very excited about starting the track towards a career change, but at the same time very anxious about the possibility of not adoring the change. That would be disastrous.

Before I get started on another degree, I am going to ask you readers…what job do you have and do you love it?


After the last cycle failed I started thinking about the real possibility that Violet’s body may not be able get pregnant and maintain a pregnancy due to her age. So thinking about this I had a sudden wave of panic and I pulled up her insurance policy. I could not believe what I saw under infertility…3 rounds of IVF covered at 90%. WTF?!?! This is not at all what I expected to see. This whole time Violet and I thought that IVF was not going to be an option for either of us. Our plan was after so many tries with IUI, we would switch over to me. This plan always broke my heart because I wanted to make sure that Violet had all opportunities to carry a child, but financially it would not be a wise choice for us. So even though we are way far away from looking at IVF and if we were on the IVF train I know that it does not always work, it is stress reducing to know that Violet will at least get to try IVF.

Lastly, I am very excited to report that today is CD 2!! Which would put the IUI about two days before Violet’s 36h birthday! I think that a positive test would be a great late birthday present!


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8 thoughts on “Changes

  1. I don’t think Violet’s age is too advanced. I sure hope not!

    Congrats on finding out you have IVF coverage. It does open up some options, doesn’t it?

  2. Good for you both for making some changes in your life, that is awesome. It is wonderful to get others areas in your life before your little one arrives (which WILL happen!)

    I think it is also awesome that Violet has IVF coverage! So, so amazing!

    I’m keeping fingers crossed on this cycle for y’all!

  3. Wow- finding out about IVF coverage is awesome- coverage at 90%, 3 times- holy goodness!

    I’m going to issue to you the same challenge I did Cindy at

    I hearby challenge you to the NGM hot future mama contest.

    The guidelines: Set three goals, describe why you are setting them, and hold yourself accountable to them in a weekly post.

    Should you choose to accept this challenge, post to your blog.

  4. Mazel tov on graduate school! It sounds like you are both working on positive changes in your lives, and that is just fantastic. How wonderful, too, to find out about Violet’s IVF coverage. I hope you won’t need it, but that’s great that it’s an option. Best of luck with all of your goals!

  5. 36 is definitely not too old! That’s great that you have IVF coverage too. Does your insurance make you do a certain number of IUIs first, or do you get coverage right away? My insurance made me jump through hoops to prove that I’d tried lesser methods before moving on the IVF.

    Congrats on grad school too! Career change is always exciting. My job is in an academic library and unfortunately, I do not love it. I won’t bore you with details here, but if you’d like to talk more about it feel free to e-mail me.

    • alimis on said:

      No, I dont think that 36 is to old, biut I am relaistic to the fact that fertility issues arise as age does, so it is nice to have a back up plan if need be.
      I have not checked with the insurance company since we are far away from IVF. Thanks for the tip though.
      Sorry to hear that you do not like your job in an academic library. Kind of funny though that I am going back to become a school media specialist (school librarian)

  6. That is some amazing insurance coverage! Lucky ladies. Hopefully you won’t need it, though:)

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