Where is the Ceiling?
As of this morning it became official, this cycle was unsuccessful. Since V had gotten some negative pregnancy tests over the past week we started discussing the next cycle, money and over all the direction that we want our TTC journey to look like. These conversations have been very helpful and healing in some ways because I was able to step away from the emotion and take a more analytical approach to trying to get pregnant.
I think the most important conversations centered around money and finances. We took a long thoughtful look at what we are spending each cycle and discussed what this mean in regards of our financial health. Before we actually started trying to conceive, the number of attempts would be indefinent. We would try until a baby was created and delivered! But, as we all know all too well, things change once you actually in the middle of trying to expand your family. We have not set a number in stone yet, as these things need careful consideration. We are not taking out loans to finance our monthly baby making adventures, therefore each month we are paying everything out-of-pocket, with a little help with insurance on u/s and IUI procedures. It is costing us over a $1,000.00 a month on TTC. I shudder at the thought that if we do 5 consecutive IUI’s then we would have spent $6,000.00 in just five months! I am realistic and realize that many, and I mean many, of you have spent much more money than this, but, we are trying to find a good balance where we feel good about how much we put into TTC. How do you put a “price” on the chance to have a child though? That is where we are struggling.
The financial burden just sucks so much. I’m sorry it hasn’t worked for you yet 😦
I think it’s really hard to set a cut-off amount for TTC. I never would have imagined that we would spend as much as we have. You might set a monetary limit for yourself, and then find you’re not emotionally ready to stop when you hit that point. I think it’s a good idea to give yourself some sort of financial guidelines, but be flexible. If you’re not ready to stop when you get to the cutoff, then let yourself keep going.
im sorry for the bfn 😦
as for putting a price on ttc, that is such a difficult question. its great you are sitting down and addressing it head-on though – we just stumbled along and got in way more debt than we ever imagined.
Damn, I’m sorry about the bfn.
I’m right there with you girl. It’s hard to know how far you should go but decisions present themselves and you will know what to do.
I’m so sorry to hear about the negative.
Finances: that’s a hard one. It’s smart that y’all had these conversations, to create sort of a baseline, but I agree that it’s important to be flexible.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it a million times in the future: I *hate* money.
I’m sorry that it didn’t work out this cycle for you. It sucks when money starts coming into play, I wish all health insurances were required to cover everything so-called “infertility” related, even man in the can. A girl can wish, right?