Mommies In The Making


Yesterday afternoon, V has a coworker that knows we were trying to get pregnant. As they were in her office, V mentioned that she was cramping a little bit. The coworker looks at her and says “Oh, no…cramping?? That’s bad. You shouldn’t be cramping!!”

This of course makes me very upset because it  stressed V out and made her a bit panicky. Even though I had told V that dull achy cramping was normal in early pregnancy; it was still awful for her to hear this from another women. Especially from a women who has been pregnant and given birth. What kind of woman says that to another woman?? Frustrating. I can only assume that this woman went through her pregnancy completely uninformed and is now dishing out advice based on solely her pregnancy. Please don’t do this.

My mom has really embraced this pregnancy and I absolutely love to feel her excitement. I guess that V and I had mentioned that V was going in for blood work or office visit on Monday because Tuesday she called to see how everything went. It was such a sweet gesture and allowed me to know that she will fully accept V and my child as her grandchild and that she was looking forward to V and my journey towards parenthood. I assumed that my parents would not see a line of distinction since V was carrying,  but there was always a sliver of doubt. We are so blessed to have such a wonderful family.


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4 thoughts on “Stupidity

  1. So glad your parents are being supportive. And yes, that’s a really shitty thing to say. Some people just don’t know when to keep their mouths shut.

  2. I’m so happy that your parents are excited! That’s wonderful. Sorry for V’s stress–nothing worse than an uninformed know-it-all.

  3. First I would like to congratulate you and V on the BFP!!! That is excellent news! Second I would like to say that woman should have kept her mouth shut. Without knowing the facts (that cramps are normal during early pregnancy as the uterus is preparing to grow) she should have something to the effect of “I’m sure you will be ok” and moved on. And third – Family is so important and having them be supportive is the best feeling.

  4. reproducinggenius on said:

    I really hate it when people who are uninformed feel the need to make comments like that. However, as you know, cramps during early pregnancy are VERY common, and I had them quite a bit during weeks 4-6. Still, it’s hard to hear things like that, I’m sorry V. was subjected to it.

    It’s fabulous that your mom is embracing this pregnancy and being so supportive. It means so much.

    Take care, girls!

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